Posted: June 10, 2015 Contributor: PRJKT RUBY
3 Tips for Discussing Birth Control With Your Partner
No matter how you look at it, making the decision to become sexually intimate with someone takes not only trust but vulnerability as well. When it’s time to talk about sex-related things, like birth control for example, many people have a challenging time broaching the subject. Even if it makes you uncomfortable, discussing safe sex practices with your partner is something that should happen.
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Here are some practical tips for discussing birth control with your partner.
1. Have the talk prior to having sex
Now this may seem like a no-brainer but somehow the majority of us are more comfortable getting in to bed with someone we care about than we are discussing the practicalities of the situation. Once you have made the personal decision to take your relationship to that “next level,” it’s a wise idea to familiarize yourself with the birth control options available and identify those that are the best match for you. Once you know what you would like to do, speak up and talk to your partner BEFORE things have begun.
2. Plan what you want to say and why
Having a game plan eliminates the potential awkwardness and fear of the unknown. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner why birth control is important to you. From the practical reasons behind your choice to the more pleasurable ones, discuss them all. If you feel you will be better able to enjoy sex with your partner without the fear of becoming pregnant, that is a valid reason to voice. Know the points you want to get across and the discussions you would like to have prior to planning a time to talk.
This is also a great time to discuss your sexual health. Discuss whether you or your partner may have been exposed to STDs and if/when you have been tested. Yes, these may be the less-than-sexy parts of sex, but keeping your health at the forefront of your mind and discussing it with your partner are responsible ways to approach intimacy.
3. Discuss the “what if…?” scenario
When used as directed, birth control pills are highly effective (up to 99.9%) in preventing pregnancy. But what if your birth control failed? How would your partner react? What would your plan of action be? It’s important to know these things prior to becoming sexually active.
Still not sure how to have “the talk?” Speak with your health care professional for additional tips! Discussing your health and future can actually bring you and your partner closer together.